每週金句-No.045 子夏曰:「君子有三變:望之儼然,即之也溫,聽其言也厲。」

子夏曰:「君子有三變:望之儼然,即之也溫,聽其言也厲。」做人修身首要莊重自持,待人溫文謙恭,言行慎慮敬篤,自然贏得別人的尊重。

君子何人也?望之因有沖天之志,能不為己而為人也,故令人仰望;近之因圓融溫厚讓人暖心,故令人親近似道;其言義正而平等故無別也,我輩修心養身誠以君子為榜,則溫、良、儉於懷,恭、讓於外,謹言慎行日久有功,自然修養有成自可信於眾生也。

Zi Xia said, “The superior man undergoes three changes. Looked at from a distance, he appears stern; when approached, he is mild; when he is heard to speak, his language is firm and decided.”  The first thing in cultivating oneself is be dignified and self-possessed, treat people with modesty and humility, and be cautious and respectful in words and deeds; hence naturally winning the respect of others.